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The fact is, a 14-year-old girl may be capable of agreeing to sex with a 49-year-old man, but she doesn’t have the emotional and mental maturity to consent. I was 25 before I realized that every man I’d slept with as a teenager was a pedophile. It seemed to me that since I’d courted the attention, that I was fully culpable. What teenager believes she is not mentally or emotionally capable of full consent? I thought I was an adult, although when I look at the picture of myself from the time period above, I see a child.

I thought I was the exception for these men, the girl so precocious and advanced that it superseded social norms. I thought that I was “older than my chronological age.”

It never occurred to me as a young sexually active teen that the adult men I had relationships with may have been manipulating me, that they had designs and motives I couldn’t see from my limited child’s perspective.

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Emily, XOJANE, "The Myth of the Teenage Temptress, or Why a Young Girl Can Not Consent to Sex with an Adult Man"

Everyone should read this article if they haven’t already. The anecdotes are upsetting and carry major TW (pedophilia, graphic depictions of sex), but the message is just so on point. 

(via graculus)

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My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

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— S.T.Gibson (via sarahtaylorgibson)

lightbringing-fallen-angel:

kennedyclintonkat:

brella:

tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

  • tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

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golden-spider-duck:

it is literally so amazing how fast so many men switch from “mildly harmless” to “fucking call the police” the minute you say one negative thing to them.

"It’s lovely that Robin Thicke thinks his marriage is worth saving, but this is not the way to go about it. This entire album, the track names, the hashtag; if this is in fact a sincere effort to “get her back” it’s basically a how-to on abuser dynamics. Rather than allowing Patton the time and space to decide whether or not to reconcile in private, with this album, Thicke has effectively enlisted the public to get on his side and pressure her into going back to him, and make her the villain if she refuses. “Oh, but he wrote a whole album about her! He’s really sorry!” All while he rakes in the cash, and she loses her resolve to stay away from a man who cheated on her, publicly embarrassed her and ruined a decades long relationship."

BattyMamzelle: Let’s Talk About Robin Thicke’s Manipulative Ploy To “Get Her Back”  (via afrometaphysics)

cargsdoodles:

more of that dirty hipster au now featuring clint’s coffee shop and a lot more people

cargsdoodles:

more of that dirty hipster au now featuring clint’s coffee shop and a lot more people

thepeoplesrecord:

Apartheid in Detroit: Water for corporations, not people
June 18, 2014

Biill and Hillary Clinton were up to their ears in more than $10 million worth of legal debt at the end of Clinton’s tenure as president. Donald Trump was bailed out of four bankruptcies. But Detroit residents are having a basic human right – the access to water – cancelled for being late on bills of $150.

In the spring, Detroit’s Emergency Manager Kevyn Orr ordered water shutoffs for 150,000 Detroit residents late on their bills. Orr is an unelected bureaucrat accountable only to Michigan Gov. Rick Snyder, who appointed Orr and several other “emergency managers” in largely poor, black communities like Detroit, Benton Harbor, Flint, and Highland Park, to make all financial decisions on behalf of local elected governments.

Orr’s plan will shut off water for 1,500 to 3,000 Detroit residents each week. Neither Orr nor Homrich, the contracting company Orr hired to shut off residents’ water, answered calls for interview requests.

Detroit citizens have been protesting the decision on the basis that water is a human right that cannot be denied to families who need it for cooking, bathing and flushing toilets. Many residents facing water shutoffs are currently on monthly payment plans with the Detroit Water and Sewerage Department (DWSD), paying upwards of $160 per month as water rates continue to rise, and were given no prior notice that their water was about to be cut off. Last week, the Detroit City Council held a public hearing to discuss a proposed 4 percent hike in water rates.

“The families I’ve talked to in my neighborhood and others around the city are confused about why they’re being hit (in this way),” community activist Russ Bellant told the Michigan Citizen. “Some knew they were behind, but thought they’d have time to pay it. These are people who mow the lawn on the vacant lots next door (to them).”

As the Michigan Citizen reported, residents with delinquent water bills are losing their water while prominent Detroit corporations with much larger delinquent water bills are being left alone. The Palmer Park Golf Club owes $200,000. Joe Louis Arena, home of the Detroit Red Wings, owes DWSD $80,000. Ford Field owes $55,000. Kevyn Orr is arguing that the shutoffs are necessary to pay for the DWSD infrastructure – yet when Detroit raised $1 billion in bonds to pay for new infrastructure, $537 million of it went to banks like JPMorgan Chase, UBS and Morgan Stanley to pay off interest instead.

Community activists are placing blame on the structural, institutionalized poverty in Detroit that forces the people to foot the bill for corporate mismanagement. Detroit’s bankruptcy and urban blight is a direct result of the housing bubble that burst, putting over 60,000 homes in foreclosure and rendering thousands of families homeless.

Dan Gilbert, the billionaire owner of Quicken Loans who is financing much of the gentrified development of downtown Detroit, has been particularly blamed for his company’s role in exacerbating the foreclosure crisis through its intimidation of homeowners, pressuring them into risky subprime lending schemes.

“Instead of going after the corporate institutions who owe millions, they’d rather turn off the water for poor people,” said Demeeko Williams, an organizer with Detroiters Resisting Emergency Management.

To fight back, Williams and other community activist groups like Moratorium NOW! and the Detroit After Party are teaming up to create theDetroit Water Brigade, a mutual aid effort aimed at providing residents with water and stopping water shutoffs with nonviolent direct action. The Detroit Water Brigade has set up a bridal registry on Amazon.com inviting those interested to help purchase necessary supplies like water coolers, cases of bottled water, heavy-duty contractor bags, and orange safety vests.

Some of the more radical direct actions being promoted by the Detroit Water Brigade include distributing flyers instructing people on how to turn their own water back on after it’s been shut off, and how to pre-emptively stop contractors from shutting water for their home. The flyer reads:

“Step 1: If your water is off, have the neighborhood water person or a friend (not you) obtain a water key and turn it back on 1st. (If you expect your water to be turned off, go to step 2.)

“Step 2: Purchase ready mix cement from the hardware [store].

“Step 3: Fill lockbox pipe 3/4ths full with dry cement mix.

“Step 4: Add water to top off. Don’t use rocks because rocks can be sucked out.”

The Detroit Water Brigade is also meeting regularly to train interested residents in nonviolent civil disobedience. Residents are planning to form human chains putting themselves between water lockboxes and contractors hired to shut off water. The water brigade is counting on Detroit’s understaffed police department to not have the resources to arrest and jail everyone participating in the water shutoff demonstrations.

In response to sustained protests from Detroit residents, the DWSD has removed the “Water Shut Off” decals from its trucks.

Source

#the hell even is this#water is a necessity—not a corporate privilege

no-more-ramen:

Super easy and filling breakfast meal that’s quick, and really hits the spot on mornings a bowl of cereal just won’t cut it.
(I still love you Reese’s Puffs!)
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INGREDIENTS
quick oats
cereal ( My favorite to use is either Honey Bunches of Oats or Trader Joe’s mixed berry granola cereal, but feel free to use whatever you have on hand)
fresh or frozen berries
1 egg
cinnamon
salt
honey
**Because it’s not real baking, I treat this the same way I cook, which is just by eyeballing the the amount of ingredients.
DIRECTIONS
Get a mug, and fill it halfway up with oats. Add a dash of salt and cinnamon, and squirt in the amount of honey you desire (fyi, if you forget to add the salt, you’ll very much regret it. It can make or break the muffin)
Crack one egg, and mix until all the dry ingredients are well incorporated.
Stir in the berries, and be careful not to overdue it. Otherwise you’ll have one soggy muffin, yet another way to ruin a perfectly delicious recipe.
These ingredients alone unfortunately won’t produce those satisfyingly crunchy muffin tops you get from a freshly baked one out of the oven. So that’s where the cereal comes in! You pat down enough to cover the top layer entirely. 
Microwave for one minute, then pop it right out. You can eat it as is, but I personally love to spread on some PB & J, or PB and honey. Enjoy!

This recipe was adapted from Casey Ho’s Berrylicious Microwave Minute Muffin

no-more-ramen:

Super easy and filling breakfast meal that’s quick, and really hits the spot on mornings a bowl of cereal just won’t cut it.

(I still love you Reese’s Puffs!)

****

INGREDIENTS

  • quick oats
  • cereal ( My favorite to use is either Honey Bunches of Oats or Trader Joe’s mixed berry granola cereal, but feel free to use whatever you have on hand)
  • fresh or frozen berries
  • 1 egg
  • cinnamon
  • salt
  • honey

**Because it’s not real baking, I treat this the same way I cook, which is just by eyeballing the the amount of ingredients.

DIRECTIONS

Get a mug, and fill it halfway up with oats. Add a dash of salt and cinnamon, and squirt in the amount of honey you desire (fyi, if you forget to add the salt, you’ll very much regret it. It can make or break the muffin)

Crack one egg, and mix until all the dry ingredients are well incorporated.

Stir in the berries, and be careful not to overdue it. Otherwise you’ll have one soggy muffin, yet another way to ruin a perfectly delicious recipe.

These ingredients alone unfortunately won’t produce those satisfyingly crunchy muffin tops you get from a freshly baked one out of the oven. So that’s where the cereal comes in! You pat down enough to cover the top layer entirely. 

Microwave for one minute, then pop it right out. You can eat it as is, but I personally love to spread on some PB & J, or PB and honey. Enjoy!

This recipe was adapted from Casey Ho’s Berrylicious Microwave Minute Muffin

northernlotus:

buckybatch:

imagine the avengers playing hide and seek and bucky is always a master at hiding so steve uses a metal detector to find him

"Bucky you’re in the couch."

Muffled swearing

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